This is one of my Blue-room experiences. There was a woman (Mrs Z )at the blue room who I had direct contact with all through my stay . She was a soft-spoken woman with a gentle demeanor but she isn’t on the list of those I would really love to lay eyes on again! Notice I didn’t say contact or speak to. She is the proper green snake under green grass. She made life almost unbearable for me. Almost unbearable because I came in contact with the most loving and helpful set of humans one could ever imagine, so her attitude had less effect because of the love I experienced from the others. She would abandon her duties with me, on the pretense of being in a senior office which made her the supposedly busiest woman at the Blue-room.
I can count the number of classes I had with this woman which never lasted for more than 20 minutes per class. During those classes, she would read directly from an handout she had prepared for the undergraduate class, give me to photocopy and read to my hearing as if I was visually impared. Shoutout to my lecturers at LAUTECH (that’s where I got my first degree). I had the privilege to be taught by one of my former lecturers, Prof. Olabode (real name). He taught me as if he had never taught me before. I remember a class I was having at Mrs Z’s office on a fateful day, one of her friends came by to tell her it was time to go and eat amala at a buka outside the Blue-room! Of course, she ended the class abruptly and left for the day!! There was another time another of her friends came into her office to discuss hot topics. I was sent out of her office. I went into the secretary’s to wait but the friend still stuck out her head to ask me out of the entire office, so I wouldn’t hear their discussion!!!
The tests and examinations I wrote for 1st & 2nd semesters were marked and recorded almost a year afterwards! You want to know how I got to know? Let’s just say I have my sources. For my thesis, she had no idea of what I put across and instead of allowing a knowledgeable colleague put her through, she almost made me have an extra semester. She never showed up for my laboratory experiments, showed up twice at my screen house only because she noticed some of her colleagues were interested. All through my field work, she never picked my calls, never acknowledged my sms not to talk of replying. She only contacted me when she felt like. Complimentary messages sent during festive periods were not acknowledged as well.
At my oral examination, she invited an external supervisor whom she thought could really understand what I did which he did, only after I explained . While I was going through the ordeal of the defence, she went about telling anyone that cared to listen how unserious and unavailable I was, blackmailing me so she wouldn’t be lashed for whatever mistakes discovered. Some weeks to my graduation, she complained I was disturbing her and went on to complain to my colleague that if I was getting impatient, my parents should have done her job (correction) for me so I could graduate! This is a woman who would smile at me, then go about saying all sort of vile things behind me just to save face.
Eventually, I scaled through with the help of God and that’s when she started chasing me up and down with sms, calls, chats and mails! Me??? When the Lord turned the captivity of Zion, they were like them that dreamt!!! She now wants to talk to me at all cost (story for another day).
The reason why I marvel at her behaviour is because she professes to be a very good christian. In fact, there was a time she wanted to evangelize to me. She even prayed with me after my oral examination and I was there saying amen, not knowing she had literally finished me. No wonder I was drilled for approximately six hours during my oral examinations…M.Sc. oooo not PhD! In totality, her actions put me off. Wouldn’t it put you off? Isn’t Christianity overrated? I would be lying if I told you I forgave her immediately. I eventually did, but writing about it is part of the ‘forgetting’ part. So help me, God. The Bible says it all: ‘Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your GOOD works and give glory to your Father in heaven’. We are not Christians by mouth or looks only, but by our TOTALITY. I just saw a movie ‘The Shack’. It provoked some thoughts within me about how we should be as Christians. Christianity isn’t about going to church only; it’s about fellowship, about LOVE. The Holy Bible says ‘Be kindly affectionate to one another with brotherly love’ (Romans 12: 9a) How do you prove you have love within you when you can’t show it to random people irrespective of their age, position, religion, title? The Bible says again ‘Owe no one anything except to love one another, for he who loves another has fulfilled the law’. Furthermore, says ‘Love does no harm to a neighbour, therefore love is the fulfillment of law’ (Romans 13: 8 & 10). If you missed a similar post, kindly read here
N.B: Real name of Mrs Z withheld.
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